Develop Social Motivation For Lasting Friendship.
Is your child desiring to make friends, but afraid to engage in social interactions because of repeated social failure and peer rejection?
Do you feel FRUSTRATED with your child’s marginal progress, or lack of progress altogether?
You’re not alone.
As a parent of a child with autism, you have been dealt a very difficult hand in life. You must play many roles for this child, beyond just parenting her. You must be her advocate, her caregiver, her teacher, and her therapist. All that adds up to more stress than a typical parent will ever experience in a lifetime.
You know that your child has many unique qualities, but the absence of social skills makes it hard for her to integrate with others. This frustration is often amplified when your child tries and fails to establish social relationships.
So, what do most parents share with me about their hopes for their children?
I can sum it up in a few sentences…
I want my child to be included in birthday parties.
I would like my child to have a job, a family, and participate fully in life.
Some parents aim for “recovery” as the best outcome in autism because such a diagnosis shouldn’t a death sentence that it is believed it to be.
Autism Recovery Is Possible! Several scientific research studies have investigated it. Google it to see for yourself.
But recovery is a big word… even the clinical manual we call DSM-5 had to change its own view from “residual symptoms” to “lifelong disability.” However, one can argue that if you must dig in to find out what’s wrong with the child, and if you can’t observe any actions that are having an impact on functioning, then recovery is possible.
Most children who are labeled as recovered retain trace elements of their autism, such as shyness, anxiety, or focused interests in a specific area. But the fact is, such variations are common in the general population – and, more importantly, many people can and do find happiness, independence, and fulfillment in life even if they are shy, anxious, or mildly quirky.
Still other children may not fully recover, but they demonstrate incredible and impressive progress nonetheless.